I have always been a warm person.
Some call it enthusiasm. Some say I am overly enthusiastic. I care too much. I give too much. I go beyond what is required. For my team, my friends and family. For anyone who needs support.
From a young age until now, this warmth has followed me everywhere. It shaped my values, my leadership style, and the way I show up in the world. It is not a performance. It is not a tactic. It is simply who I am.
I am not writing this to praise myself. I am not seeking recognition, acknowledgment, or even pity. What I give is never transactional. It comes from sincerity. From the belief that people matter, that guidance matters, that being present for others has value even when no one is watching.
But here is the part that is rarely spoken about.
When something happens to you, when you stumble, when circumstances shift, the warmth you once extended can be met with silence. The energy you poured into others does not always return. Sometimes it evaporates without warning.
No goodbyes.
No “take care.”
No “how are you doing”
Just a cold, distant “good luck.”
And then reality hits.
There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes with this moment. A sharp, hollow feeling, as if you have done something unspeakable. Something illegal. Something so wrong that you deserve to be erased. The isolation feels disproportionate, and deeply painful.
It makes you question everything. Your intentions. Your actions. Your sincerity. You replay conversations in your mind, searching for the crime you supposedly committed, only to find that caring too deeply was your only offense.
The hardest part is not the loss of status or position. It is the quiet realization that loyalty is fragile, and compassion is often remembered only when it is convenient.
Still, I remain who I am.
I do not regret being warm. I do not regret showing up. I do not regret choosing sincerity in a world that often rewards distance and detachment. Kindness is not weakness. Caring is not foolish. Going above and beyond is not something to be ashamed of.
This experience has taught me something painful but necessary: sometimes the people who rely on your strength the most are the least prepared to stand beside you when you need support.
And yet, I would rather be someone who feels deeply and cares sincerely than someone who survives by becoming cold.
Because even when it hurts, I know this much is true.
Being warm did not break me.
Being abandoned revealed who I truly am.
And I am still standing.
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